Now before anyone reads any further, please note that this post is NOT about stuff going on in the world right now politically, or in the USA. If YOU wish to construe it that way, you are free to do so; it IS a free country. But also note that it is NOT my intent.
Every decision we make in our life has consequences. Sometimes there are no wrong answers. Sometimes there are only smaller risks.
A year and a half ago I was faced with a dilemma. I was approached seemingly out of nowhere with a job offer that was NOT guaranteed to go anywhere for any amount of time, but paid WAY more than what I was making at the time. What to do? Do I stay with what I got because I have it and it’s as guaranteed as a job can be? Do I quit and chase this chance even though it might only last a few months? It was an agonizing decision. I consulted a lot of friends, and the CatDaddy and I discussed it a lot. I knew WHATEVER decision I made, I had his full support. But the impacts of the choice I made would likely impact the entire family unit, so his input was of paramount importance. Eventually I decided on the middle road, working two jobs for what ended up being six months before this dream chance fell apart on me. But even then, it was not wasted. I made friendships that continued past that job. I gained experience I would’ve never had. I got an eye into a field that I would never have before even thought about. So when it fell apart, I was devastated, but I knew there was going to be another opportunity. It was not a sudden surprise, but it was a jolt to the system. Once again, I felt like I had to find the magic. I’ve had to do it time and time again, and please don’t ask how I do it. I don’t know. Other than the fact that I have the most wonderful supporter in the world right behind me, I don’t know. But within a week or two, I could see the light at the end of the tunnel, and in a couple weeks, it’ll be a year since the next step was taken. I don’t know how much of a stepping stone it is, or if it’s going to be more than that.
My whole point in all this is that everything triggers another event. So before you jump on someone for doing something, or not doing something, or using the tools they see that they have, take a step back. It’s not your life. Please, don’t judge. Don’t think you have to do it the same way either. What works for one doesn’t work for all.
And I swear. If ANY of my friends start jumping on each other for the way they’re trying to get from Point A to Point B without considering all of the facts and knowing why they’re looking at it that way, I will step in and shut it down. Do y’all understand?
My friends mean too much to me. Some of you have helped me think through crap. But the ones that do it best know me best and don’t tell me what to do, but help me think of possibilities, how to get through them, and what might come next. Strategy sessions.
Let’s be that friend to all our friends.